Manners have gone by the wayside these days. I have noticed a decline in the use of manners in society today. I have to say it makes me feel bad when someone does not use their manners. We need to show our children that manners still matter.
I will admit I struggle with manners but I am continually trying to do a better job. My husband and I have always tried to use our manners with each other. When we don’t use our manners it implies we don’t care for the other person. It is good to make a habit of using our manners at home and it will spread to our everyday life.
When we talk to our children about manners we need to be prepared to be held accountable. We need to be prepared to model what we are teaching them. Children learn from what they see. Ever notice how your children do things the way you do them because they have seen you do things? There are three things that we need to take into account when we are teaching our children about manners.
The first thing to consider is custom. We have certain customs in this country. There was a time when everyone would shake hands. This was an important part of society. Shaking hands was important because it would show others they were not carrying a sword in their hands. Today shaking hands is polite when you meet someone. Custom is important to take into consideration when addressing manners.
The next thing to take into account is consideration. Consideration takes the focus off of us and onto others. When we are considerate we are always being well mannered. This is the most important concept surrounding the use of manners. When we don’t take others into consideration it hurts their feelings and we show our ruthlessness. Simply put, consideration is thinking about the way another person feels.
The last thing to take into account when discussing manners with your children is common sense. This one is harder to teach. Children have a hard time using common sense until they get a little older. Younger children see things from their point of view. Even adults have a hard time using common sense. It is not impossible to teach children to use common sense when it comes to manners but it is challenging.
Manners matter. It’s imperative that we teach our children manners in all aspects of life. Manners are an integral part of our society and we need to teach our children to use them. Take the time to bring up this important topic at your next meal as a family.
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